Over the next few weeks, I would like to debunk a few common assumptions people seem to have about therapy, therapists, and clients....

I was trained as a therapist to understand that there is only one rule of therapy—all talk, no action. In other words, the therapy hour...

People come to therapy when things aren’t going well for them. Sometimes it’s an isolated thing (e.g., an unfulfilling sex life), but...

Our culture has the attitude that complaining is a waste of time. The idea is that complaining about something (like not making enough...

The way I see it, therapy is not about teaching you tools and techniques to live your life, for the simple reason that they don't exist....

Thinking about things is like driving a car, whereas saying them is like walking. Much of the scenery is inaccessible to a person in a...

Therapeutic work is characterized by a series of delicate balances. For example, your counselor should not come across as another friend...

Problems and goals are part of the common narrative of getting help. It's an easy narrative to tell, which is why it is told over and...

Entire books could be written about eye contact, but for the sake of brevity, let’s limit our consideration to eye contact in the...

An interesting hypothesis is that the effectiveness of therapy has an inverse relationship with the culture’s acceptance of therapy as a...