When Solutions Become ProblemsOne thing I have learned after three years of seeing clients is that the “presenting problem,” which is what clients say is the cause of...
Process > Content, Part IIIn the last post, I talked about the importance of prioritizing process over content. Process is the how or why, whereas content is the...
Process > ContentIn literature classes, students are not only expected to read the text, but also to understand everything around it (e.g., the context...
The Question That DividesIt is important for therapists to conceptualize themselves as part of the self-help industry, if only because clients will come to them...
When Acceptance is Helpful and When it's NotPeople take the concept of acceptance to mean two different things. One is helpful, the other is not. Many of my clients initially balk...
How To Change Core Beliefs, Part IILast post I discussed the concept of core beliefs: why they are formed, when they are a problem, and how certain approaches (like...
How To Change Core Beliefs, Part IIf I had to define it simply, I would say therapy is the process of updating core beliefs, or beliefs we hold about ourselves and the...
Corrective Emotional Experiences ExplainedEven though many therapeutic orientations hang their hat upon insight—knowledge about oneself and one’s patterns—I have found that...
Before You Can Be LovedI have been surprised over the last few weeks by how many of my clients believe in the saying, “You have to love yourself before you can...
Allowing Us To BeI’d like to follow up with the idea expressed in my last post, that much of what we say, and how we act, is disguising an emotional need,...