I was trained as a therapist to understand that there is only one rule of therapy—all talk, no action. In other words, the therapy hour can accommodate anything being said, but cannot accommodate any action beside the action of speaking. I tell my clients, “You are more than welcome to tell me how much you’d like to throw the lamp at me, but you cannot touch the lamp.” I don’t think it’s a stretch to say that our freedom as US citizens is constructed in much the same way. We
People come to therapy when things aren’t going well for them. Sometimes it’s an isolated thing (e.g., an unfulfilling sex life), but usually it's more pervasive than that. Either way, they are at a low confidence level. The way they have been going about things is not working; the very act of going to a therapist is often seen as confirmation of this. Now, some helpers take advantage of this lower confidence level—they see it as an opportunity to tell the person how to live.
Our culture has the attitude that complaining is a waste of time. The idea is that complaining about something (like not making enough money) will not change the thing itself, so you would be better served by actually doing something about the problem. This relies on a very simplistic view of human nature. It ignores the fact that people think and feel before they act. Sure, if you throw an apple at someone's head, they are going to duck without thinking. But most of the deci