Secondly, and Most Importantly
Probably the first thing that comes to mind when I consider what I have learned by experience (rather than formal education) is that the majority of people’s suffering is due to what I informally call “secondary effects.” Secondary effects are thoughts and emotions about your thoughts and emotions, and for some reason they seem far more devastating than the original thought or feeling. Let’s take an example. You went through a divorce a few months ago, and are just now thinki